As days pass by and I see my daughters develop into their own independent little ladies, I often wonder what sort of women they will become. This isn’t something I particularly worry about. Perhaps I should. I don’t mind what jobs they have, I don’t mind if they go to university or not. Their happiness is the most important thing. Along the way I hope they learn, or I can teach these few things….

Be strong minded but not hard hearted. It is important to know what you want and to have the courage to go and get it for yourself. Accompany this with a warm heart and an ability to empathise with others and you will go far and be loved.

Have an opinion. Base this opinion on facts not hear say. Not everything you read or hear will be true. Don’t jump to conclusions. Be prepared to debate. Be prepared to have your opinion changed. Remain open minded. You won’t always be right, be gracious in defeat and always admit when you were wrong.

If you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. If asked for an opinion then yes, voice it. Sometimes, however, a question wasn’t asked, a debate wasn’t started. In this instance, if it is too hard to find something nice to say then just don’t say anything.

Ambition is important. What the ambition is isn’t overly relevant. Having ambition itself is what matters as it gives you drive and focus. You can do anything you set your minds to it. Hard work goes a long way.

Be organised. This can be hard to do at times. It is important to stay organised in both thoughts and process. Sometimes things happen in life that knock your confidence, don’t let these things get in the way.

Trust your own instincts. We are all individuals and because of this we will each take different paths in life. We will all enjoy and dislike different things. As they say ‘it takes all sorts to make the world go round’. Only you will know what is right for you. Trust you know the answer.

Stand up for what you believe in. Trust me no one else will.

Stand up for others. Not everyone is strong, and sometimes even strong people have their strength taken away from them. Don’t stand and watch people be bullied or have their confidence sucked from them. Stand up for what you know is right and give others a voice when they have lost theirs. Someday you may need them to return the favour.

Value yourself. There will be a lot of people that come and go throughout life, sadly many of them will try to take advantage of you. If you let them they will keep doing it. Know your worth and value it! Don’t let anyone walk all over you.

Be decisive and be determined. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes but learn from them.

Learn from other people’s mistakes and not just your own. This is hard to do but pay attention. There is no need to replicate someone else’s mistake.

Believe in karma. Trust me… What goes around come around.

Love freely. Those who love the most are loved the most.

Most importantly…

Be happy! Do what brings you joy. Be with people that make you happy, surround yourself with the good in the world. Happiness comes from within.

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A Mummy to two little girls blogging about Parenting and Food with some other little snippets of life along the way. The adventures of Pinky & Perky make me laugh and cry in equal measure.

40 Comments

  1. just beautiful – my girls are in their teens and everything you write rings true – I’m going to read this to them tonight so thank you for sharing #BigPinkLink

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    1. I’m glad you enjoyed it x

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  2. Who could wish for anything more and your last one is the most important, it is so easy to try to relive our own dreams through our children but ultimately it is their own dreams that will make them happy. #BigPinkLink

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    1. It is hard not to reflect my dreams onto them, of course it never goes well when I do. The more I let them be themsleves the happier they are.

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  3. This is absolutely beautiful, and all so perfect! I want exactly the same for my children, although I haven’t yet been able to articulate it as well as you’ve done here. I loved it all, but I especially loved ‘be prepared to have your opinion changed. Remain open minded. You won’t always be right, be gracious in defeat and always admit when you were wrong.’ For me, there is something really special about someone who can see every side of an argument, and listen to a debate with the possibility that they might change their minds. Standing up for others is also so important. So many will stand on the sidelines and turn a blind eye-I really hope my children won’t do this. I’m sure, with a fabulous mummy like you to guide them, your children will turn out perfectly. x
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    1. I’m really glad you enjoyed reading it. I enjoyed writing it.

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  4. This is just beautiful. I wish I was half as articulate in pinpointing what I want for my children as they grow up! I love the point about having an opinion but remaining open minded. But primarily your last point is what I hope for above all – to keep that joy in everything they do, to surround themselves with people that make them happy, and who they make happy in return. #BloggerClubUK

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    1. Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it. i agree that above all their happiness is what is important, the rest will fall into place.

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  5. I love this and I agree with all of them! No matter what life throws at them, it sounds like you’re setting them up for success. And they are loved, which is giving them the best start in life, full stop. I love seeing your gorgeous girls together and I hope they’ll always love each other as they do now.

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    1. Thank you! So do I, I hope they can always be close despite the inevitable sisterly spats.

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  6. This is such a great post, my favourite is if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. So important for kids growing up with social media as the norm #sharingthebloglove

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  7. Ah this is a lovely read. And the last point, being happy is so important, it’s all we really want for our kids isn’t it x #sharingthebloglove

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  8. Oh that’s the most perfect advice for all children. I only hope I can pass those on to my child as he’s growing up…and that being happy is most important #sharingthebloglove

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  9. Your girls are precious! You are sharing such amazing pieces of advice with them. They’ll be glad to grow up and read these. Perfect. #bloggerlcubUK #sharingthebloglove

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  10. Oh my goodness this is the sweetest thing. will you share this post with them? It is so wonderful. I would also like to tell my little one to not get stressed. Will it matter in fve years time? Then it isn’t worth losing sleep over now. #sharingthebloglove

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    1. I’m glad you enjoyed reading it. Yes I will show them when they are old enough to understand. I hope some of it sticks with them if not all of it.

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  11. Just stopping by again to say thanks so much for sharing this with us at #SharingtheBlogLove – I’d hoped you would!

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    1. You’re welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed reading it, this has been my favourite post to write so far.

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  12. thefrenchiemummy October 1, 2016 at 10:22 PM

    I think you got it all spot on in here! Some great values in my opinion. I was about to select a few as favourites, but actually, I like them all. They are all important to me! If you raise them with those value, then, job done! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday.

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    1. I’m glad you enjoyed it. I think I may have missed a few values but these were my top ones.

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  13. Really lovely! And I think ‘Standing up for others’ is really important, there is so much bullying these days. #kcacols

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    1. There really is and I hope my girls can recognise it and do something about it.

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  14. […] – What I Want My Daughters To Know  – This one by winnettes was brilliant. Powerful, and touching, it outlined the exact values […]

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  15. As a fellow mum to girls this is spot on and absolutely lovely, I hope to raise kind, confident, helpful daughters who are proud of who they are x #sharingthebloglove

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    1. I’m glad you liked it X

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  16. I’ve never really thought about what I’d want my daughter to know – perhaps I should! #KCACOLS

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  17. Jenni - Odd Socks and Lollipops October 2, 2016 at 2:48 PM

    These are great things that I would want my daughter to know too! I totally agree with you that being happy is the most important thing! #KCACOLS

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  18. Loved this post, so true, and so important. I think the conversations we have with our kids every day, the little lessons and opinions sink in and when you hear them ‘doing the right thing’ so to speak, it is the best feeling. Thanks for sharing Xx #kcacols

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  19. Oh I love this post! Having two girls myself, I can only hope for all of this, you put it so well everything that I would want them to be. Happiness is by far the most important, but they all could play a role in that. ! Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove X

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  20. I love what you have written so much. It’s what I’m trying to instill in my girls but you put it so eloquently. Can I borrow your words? #KCACOLS

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    1. Thank you! Yes if it helps your daughters understand, of course you can use my words.

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  21. I love this. I want my daughter to know the same things. Like you, I don’t care what she becomes as long as her she’s a good person and is happy in herself! #KCACOLS

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  22. this is great – i wish someone had told me i could do anything i put my mind to! #kcacols

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    1. So do I! My in-laws are great for this attitude.

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  23. So many amazing values here. You must be raising fabulous women. I particularly liked stand up for others, kindness is so important! Thank you for linking up with us at #EatSleepBlogRT 🎉

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  24. Dave - Dad's Turn October 4, 2016 at 7:23 AM

    This is really good advice for a happy life, from start to to finish. Your girls are very lucky. #eatsleepblogrt

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  25. Great list and great advice. Trying to teach my daughter all the same things #KCACOLS

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  26. I love this! I’m tempted to print it off and put it on my fridge!! X

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